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LETTER: Pornography destroys marriages, relationships

By Letter to the Editor on March 14, 2011 1:00 am in Letters, News / 3 comments

 

I would like very much to object to the article “Why worry about a fantasy? It’s not reality.” To state “pornography is not a threat to a relationship and should not be treated as such,” underestimates a power that time and time again has proven in our society that it will destroy marriages and relationships.

Why would a serious life partner not be concerned about porn use? Sexual intimacy is intended to be the ultimate expression of personal unification between two committed people. When it is reduced to “getting down with yourself,” and the like you have lost the beauty that it was created for.

I choose not controlled by my sexual nature and fantasy life. Contrary to Hoffman’s suggestion, there is no “conversation to be had” about pornography. If you consider yourself mature about relationships and you use pornography, you are mistaken. Those who use pornography show no respect for women, the dignity of sexual intimacy or themselves.

Joe Vercellino

Midland senior

 

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  • Anonymous

    While I find pornography pretty disgusting, it is neither my, yours, nor anyone’s responsibility to pass judgment on those who enjoy it.

    The last paragraph of your letter is full of nothing but self righteous presumptions of others. If pornography is destroying the emotional/sexual bond of a committed relationship, then it is up to those involved to resolve the issue…not you.

  • whatever

    The problem with pornographic material is it reduces sex to low quality standards in my opinion and is degrading. I have to admit I think it can be problematic in a relationship and studies have shown that it does affect the quality or expectations usually the man views on what a woman should look like. It not only cheapens something that is potentially so much more and looks at women as objects and promotes aggression. It also is potentially addicting to all genders whether it’s watch videos or using toys it should be used in moderation if used in my opinion.

  • soph_sensation

    Use of pornography by an individual is one’s own personal choice, not yours. Whether your beliefs are religiously based or not, this matter is not personally up to you to decide. Obviously, it can become an addicting and thus degrading habit, however porn by itself is simply an attempt to satisfy the human desire for sexual intercourse.

    Porn is not a female only activity. For every woman involved in a porn film, there is a man, or sometimes another woman, to complete the activity. To reduce it to be all about women is biased and close-minded. Furthermore, professional and even amateur porn is an entirely free choice activity. Porn starts are not forced to have sex, they choose that career. They know the risks, and the expectations of the job, and they obviously don’t have a problem with those factors. At the base level, that is the same situation you would have to deal with in any other job. Duty, Expectations, Risks.

    Now, that being said, I’m not trying to completely justify the porn industry. I have watched porn before, and I’ll do it again. The benefits of porn are unique and varied depending on each individual person. If you don’t want to watch porn, then that’s your choice. Don’t let anyone tell you that you can’t choose that, and on the flip side, don’t go around telling other people what is right and wrong.