Students attend ‘Jay Spot’ presentation, sex education in form of humor

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Jay Friedman said shopping for condoms should be like shopping for cars.

The sex educator and Cornell University alumna held a presentation, “The Jay Spot,” Tuesday night in the Bovee University Center Auditorium, which was sponsored by the Program Board.

During the event, students laughed at Friedman’s provocative take on sex.

“My roommates told me about this,” Detroit freshman Chelsea Ragsdale said. “I was hoping to laugh, and I did. It was interesting and I liked his comparison of food to sex.”

One example he gave was about ramen noodles, which tends to be a staple in college students cupboards.

“Even when you’re broke, you can still have a good time,” Friedman said.

For more than 22 years, Friedman has been a family planning organizer, a consultant throughout Europe, New Zealand, China and Japan and also worked in college health. He is also an award-winning writer and speaker.

Friedman said there are three things to know about when it is the right time to have sex, and they are called the three A’s; affirm, accept and assure.

“By affirm, I mean know their name,” Friedman said. “Affirm also means to have sex with the lights on and gaze into your partner’s eyes.”

He said “acceptance” means being responsible and taking care of necessary precautions such as birth control and STD protection. His term “assurance” means both partners should experience pleasure.

“Sex is as much mental and verbal as it is physical,” Friedman said. “You have to be able to communicate.”

During Friedman’s question and answer section, students were curious to know his favorite thing about sex.

“My favorite thing about sex is the element of surprise,” Friedman said. “(Like) discovering a new place I or my partner likes to be touched.”

Friedman also showed a video that is censored in the U.S., but is part of sex education in other areas of the world. It was created more than 20 years ago, but caught the attention of people in the auditorium.

“My favorite part was the video he showed,” said Constantine freshman Salina Bosworth. “It was funny and I also liked the way he talked about it — his approach on sex.”