Question: Being new to town and constantly busy (full-time student and full-time work), what would your advice be on meeting women and making a connection for a single male?
When a person is enrolled in school and working full-time, it can be sometimes be a challenge to find the right balance between the two as well as finding additional time for the dating scene. However, because college and work are all about coming across and meeting new people, finding someone to connect with might be easier than originally thought.
While you must be professional when working, it can’t hurt to strike up a conversation with a customer you find attractive. Even the slightest interest you show her will catch her attention. Whether it’s commenting on whatever item she is purchasing or just simply asking her how her day is going will be enough to strike up a deeper conversation.
Something to keep in mind is because you’re working and the time you have to talk with a customer is brief, you have to make sure that what you’re talking about with her is interesting enough to gain her attention, but yet leave her with wanting to continue the conversation more in depth later.
If trying to make a connection at work doesn’t sound appealing, try going the usual way and strike up a conversation with the women in your classes on campus.
The key to striking up a conversation in class is making sure to keep it casual. Ask her what she thought of the video the class watched or how hard she think the upcoming exam will be. Perhaps ask her if she’d like to form a study group of some sort. I say study group because as much as you may want to hang out with her one on one, it might intimidate her since she doesn’t completely know you yet.
If neither of these options work, then there is a third choice and that is to venture into the world of online dating. The commercials for online dating appear on TV all the time and as Match.com’s advertisement says, their “site leads to more dates, more relationships and more marriages than any other dating or personals site.” Even if it sounds like something you can’t picture yourself doing, let that fact sink in and as the saying goes, “don’t knock it until you’ve tried it.”
This route isn’t as out of the norm for college students as you may think. I once made an online dating account for fun, just to see what type of people were on there and ended up coming across some people I went to high school with. Give it a try. You may just find other local singles like you.
The thing to remember is there are plenty of single men and women out there and one way or another, you’ll find a way to connect with them.