ASK HILARY: Breakups can be tough
Dear Hilary; My ex-boyfriend and I broke up about a month ago and I am not over him at all. I know I should throw away stuff, but I keep on looking at it and getting sad all over again. We have a lot of the same friends, so I still see him all the time and, every time I see him, I just want to start crying. —Can’t Let Go
Dear Can’t Let Go; All break-ups are tough and, unfortunately, there is no blanket solution that fits everyone. Seeing an ex when you still have feelings is definitely tough; is there a way you can stay away from him for a little while? In the meantime, make it a point to make a little “self” time every day. Put your relationship mementos in a place you do not have to see them all the time. Spend time with friends and family. The more time you spend doing productive and happy things, the less it will consume your life. I promise.
Dear Hilary; I ran into a guy I have not seen since high school a couple of weeks ago, and we have hung out a couple times. He is really cute and he seems to be interested, but nothing has happened yet. The first time we hung out, he went home with another girl, but I don’t think he knew I was interested. I don’t know why, but I can’t stop thinking about him. It has been a really long time since I have dated anyone so I am rusty. —Slow Date
Dear Slow Date; Before you get too into this guy, take a quick step back and consider whether you genuinely like him, or if you just like the idea of dating someone new. The beginning of a relationship can be very exciting, but it is not as fun if it is not with a person you genuinely are interested in. With that, my best advice is to enjoy it and not take anything too seriously — yet.
Dear Hilary; I am finishing up my freshman year here at CMU and I do not have a signed major. There are a lot of study programs that interest me, and I don’t know how to narrow it down! I signed up for classes for next year, but they are all very different, and I don’t want to end up taking classes I will never need or be interested in. I guess I just don’t know what to sign up for. —Very Undecided
Dear Very Undecided; The cool thing about beginning college is you do not have to know everything, at least not yet! Furthermore, CMU’s University Program classes offer a lot of different classes and programs of study to complete the requirements. Out of the classes you took this year, did anything particularly interest you? Start there, and see what courses also are offered under the U.P. categories. You may be surprised by how much you can check out and also have count toward a degree.
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