ASK HILARY: Talk to those you are interested in
Dear Hilary:
I dated this guy when I was a freshman. Now two years later, we are in the same class.
We are so awkward in there together. But when we look at each other, I can still see he is trying to hide liking me, and me the same. The problem is I’m engaged to a wonderful and loving guy. But I look at the boy in class ... I really need a way to talk to him. What should I do??
—Too Much Love
Dear Too Much Love:
As tough as it is, the best way to handle your feelings is to talk to him.
It sounds like you have since met a great guy, and you should not let go of that. These feelings you have could be nerves from getting engaged, or feelings of regret or, hey, maybe the two of you will end up together. You won’t know until you bring it up.
Dear Hilary:
I am a senior, but I don’t graduate this year. I want an internship and I have been looking, but I can’t find anything. I am getting really frustrated, and a lot of my friends have already figured out their internships and jobs.
I am worried I will miss out. Suggestions?
—Nearly Professional
Dear Nearly Professional:
Don’t stress! You still have time.
To start off, several CMU programs send out e-mails regarding internship opportunities. If your major does not, network with friends to see if anything has been posted. A friend of mine also recommends Monster’s college Web site, college.monster.com, so that may be worth looking into.
If there are employers you want to work for, try contacting them directly. A lot of businesses view interns as a good investment, so you may receive an offer.
Dear Hilary:
I am in a class with a substitute professor, and he is really unprofessional. He heaps sarcasm on me and on classmates. I know I’m supposed to be respectful, but what happens when your teacher doesn’t offer the same? Is there a good way to deal?
—Annoyed Student
Dear Annoyed Student:
Yikes! Before getting (more) frustrated, try to see things from his perspective. Is your class disruptive? If not, you could go in during his office hours to maturely address the issue. He may have no idea.
If this does not work, you have one of two options: you can suck it up, or you can approach the department. I have a friend who once went to the head of her teacher’s department in order to retain her anonymity.
I personally would not take it that far unless it really is a harmful environment. The class is just one part of your education, and professors are human too.
If you have a question to submit for next week, you can contact me via e-mail at farre1hl@cmich.edu or you can submit anonymously on my Formspring account at formspring.me/HilaryFarrell.
